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Apparently today, the first official day of spring, is also International Day of Happiness. It can be difficult to imagine happiness when you are in the throes of domestic abuse, or when you are first recovering from it. I remember thinking I was happy when I was in an abusive relationship, at least some of …
“Truth hurts” a phrase often used to justify unkind words and a lack of care around other people’s feelings. Those of us of a religious bent may even try to spiritualise this notion of “only being honest” as “speaking the truth in love” But let’s face it, as our home secretary has shown us recently, …
15th April, 2022 (Easter weekend) It was us who killed him.Not God.God did not require the death of Jesus. No wonder domestic abuse is rife in our churches.If the church is the Bride we turn the Bridegroom into an abusive husband.We portray God as abusive so is it any wonder we condone, commit or expect …
Weds 26th April, 2023 I didn’t mean to take so long away from writing blogs and updating social media over Easter, it just sort of happened. Life sort of happened, busyness happened and a chaotic camping trip in the mud and the rain happened. Life is chaotic sometimes, but it is good. It was during …
18th February, 2021 If you’ve experienced abuse you know that it’s not limited to violence or to single incidents but follows a pattern of coercion and control. When I was with my abuser, I experienced abuse under all the following headings. When I worked with other women who had been abused these categories were familiar …
15th July 2018. God became most real to me when I wasn’t really sure I believed in him anymore. I’d felt this niggling over the years, every so often I’d be in church, or in my bible, or otherwise engaged in listening to God and I’d get the feeling I was supposed to end my …
Thursday 10th November 2022 I first met my boyfriend when I was a self-righteous, judgmental 19 year old, he went out with my housemate, not me. 20 years later we met again, and now, almost five years later we’re very happy together. I don’t believe our knowledge and understanding of God is limited to the …
14th May 2017 “Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbour as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” (Matthew 22:37-40) …
11th July 2014 This is my story I write it I choose the heroes I choose what happens Today, I start a new chapter A happier chapter Full of love, laughter, and peace I turn the page on the last chapter It’s done Finished Gone The old voices who put me down are silenced The …
Wednesday 1st October 2014 “If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast” (Psalm 139: 9-10) My faith has not got me through my difficult time with domestic abuse. My faith …