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“I’ve told him…” my friend announced “that he should never hit first, but if someone hits him, he should hit back twice as hard, then they won’t do it again” We were talking about how we were teaching our young children about how to deal with bullies. I’d taught my children something altogether different. I’d …
“GO AND SIN NO MORE!” Demands Jesus, wagging his finger at yet another woman who couldn’t keep her legs together. At least that seems to be how some modern day evangelical men read the story of “The woman caught in adultery.” At least once a week someone on the internet will tell me that I …
I posted on my social media yesterday that Alex Pretti displayed ‘Jesus Masculinity’ by putting himself between armed men carrying out oppressive law enforcement and a woman, just like when Jesus put himself between armed men and the woman caught in adultery. I said this is what real masculinity looks like. Men using their power …
It should be obvious to anyone who visits my social media that my raison d’etre is supporting survivors of domestic abuse, and raising awareness that abuse happens in the church, just as much outside of it, so that we can make the church a safer place. It often astounds me then the amount of people …
The phrase “innocent until proven guilty” was never intended to be used in the context of the public making judgments about the conduct of celebrities, nor, crucially, was it intended to be used by those responsible for safeguarding. And the use of it in this context is where it becomes dangerous and problematic. The use …
Justin Welby has resigned after a report found that he could have done more to prevent horrific abuse carried out by John Smyth, the most prolific serial abuser associated with the Church Of England. The Church of England has a problem with abuse, it’s still reeling from the Mike Pilivachi scandal, another man who was …
Tuesday 13th February, 2024 Last week I re-imagined the story of the Wedding at Cana as though it happened in the 21st Century. Following on from that I’ve decided to create a ‘Jesus in Jeans’ series, reimagining how the stories from the life of Jesus might look like if they happened today. This series doesn’t …
Friday 8th December, 2023Many people cannot understand why women don’t just leave when men become abusive. This is a complicated question to answer, there are so many reasons why it is difficult to leave an abuser. Often by the time we get to this point we have been so severely psychologically abused that many of …
7th April 2021 Women are made in the image of God. Women are made in God’s image. Women bear the likeness of God. God made women in Her own image. Women are God’s image bearers. How many other ways can I say this? How many times do we have to say it? Because this is …
18th February, 2021 If you’ve experienced abuse you know that it’s not limited to violence or to single incidents but follows a pattern of coercion and control. When I was with my abuser, I experienced abuse under all the following headings. When I worked with other women who had been abused these categories were familiar …