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Friday 19th May, 2023 There’s a reason I chose Always Hopeful as the name of my domestic abuse recovery programme.I thought I was hopeful when I was married.I hoped he’d be in a good mood each day, I hoped he’d be too tired to want sex when he came to bed at night, I hoped …
Monday 15th May, 2023 Really? Like that the earth is flat? Or that horoscopes are real? Or that my abuser really is sorry and really wants to change? God doesn’t want us to be naive, Proverbs 14:15 tells us “The simple believe everything, but the clever consider their steps” we’re also warned to exercise discernment, …
Friday 12th May, 2023 My boyfriend is one of those blokes who squirms at anything sentimental, romantic or overly sickly sweet. Say the word “love” to him and he’ll mimic barfing and say “bleugh.” That’s because we’ve over sentimentalised “love.” worse we’ve turned it into something weak, something wussy, fluffy and ‘nice.’ we’ve stripped it …
Tuesday 9th May, 2023 Love bears up under pressure.I used to think this meant I always had to be the strong one. If I love someone I will bear their burdens, I will hold up, I will not crumble.When my husband was losing his temper because of I would bear with him, I would tolerate, …
Friday 5th May, 2023 Unless you’ve lived under a rock the last decade you are no doubt aware that the church is becoming increasingly divided over the issue of equal marriage in the church. I don’t exactly shy away from sharing my thoughts on the issue but that’s not what this post is about. My …
Tuesday 2nd May, 2023 Love delights in the truth But that doesn’t mean you get to hurt people by sharing your unsolicited opinions and then claiming “I’m just speaking the truth in love” ….. Because this verse does not stand in isolation from the rest of the passage, if love is kind and humble, if …
Friday 28th April, 2023 Wrongdoing. In some versions this word is translated “evil” “iniquity” “injustice” “unrighteousness” and in a couple of translations it’s not written as rejoicing in one’s own evil but that of others; “does not gloat over other people’s sins” or “doesn’t revel when others grovel” or “rejoiceth not over the unrighteousness” Which …
Friday 17th March, 2023 In some versions this is translated as “love keeps no record of having been wronged” In his excellent book “Why does he do that” Lundy Bancroft identifies a type of abuser who believes himself to be the perpetual victim. This is a man who keeps a record of every wrong done …
Friday 10th March, 2023 Is there anything worse than living with an irritable person?You know, when you spend your days walking on eggshells. Before you speak, before you move, before you even dare breathe you go through all his possible reactions in your head, should I say this? Is it worth it? How will I …
Monday 6th March, 2023 If there’s anyone who has the right to insist on their own way it’s God.God- goodness personified, the creator of all that ever was.God, as described in the Old Testament as awesomely terrifying in their magnificence, the only one who can wield ultimate power and authority. God who created this amazing …