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Friday 8th December, 2023Many people cannot understand why women don’t just leave when men become abusive. This is a complicated question to answer, there are so many reasons why it is difficult to leave an abuser. Often by the time we get to this point we have been so severely psychologically abused that many of …
Thursday 7th December, 2023 “I married John in 1997, I would have been in my forties then. The first couple of years were pretty good, but I either didn’t notice or ignored the warning signs such as wanting me to move away from my family or trying to separate me from my friends by turning …
Wednesday 6th December, 2023 “I had no voice and no choiceI was 21 when I married my ex husband, we were married for 18 years.Even before we lived together he controlled everything and sulked when he didn’t get his way.His parents ridiculed me and he laughed in my face.He lied about me at church and …
Tuesday 5th December, 2023“I was in my twenties, we’d not been together long. It wasn’t one of those mad, exciting romances, where I’d fallen head over heels, but he seemed nice and he was persistent. Before long he was staying at my flat every night and I didn’t have the heart to tell him it …
Monday 4th December, 2023 My friend Meg tells me that it’s always men who grab her wheelchair without asking if she needs any help: “I was wheeling up a busy street in Manchester, back to my car after a nice lunch with some friends, not struggling, just pushing myself as I usually do. Suddenly I …
Sunday 3rd December, 2023 The last three days I’ve posted stories from women who have been harassed by men on the street, they’ve explained how frightened they were, and, as I wrote yesterday, they were frightened because they know some women don’t make it home unharmed. Some women are more vulnerable, and some aren’t even …
Rowena was 22 when she was harassed walking home alone from a night out with friends in 2004. “I was just passing the town hall when suddenly a voice came out of the darkness.“ “Would you like to feel what’s under my coat?” “I was terrified. I ran towards home as fast as I could, …
Andrya was around 24 years old when yet another assault on the street in London in the nineties made her try to stop going out alone after dark. However, this wasn’t always possible, especially in winter. She says that the walk home from work always felt more dangerous the further from the bus station towards …
Thursday 30th November, 2023 “My daughter is 16, she was recently coming back on a train at around 4pm and 3 drunk men spent 20 minutes loudly talking about how “all blondes are sluts” whilst staring at my daughter. She tried to ignore them but she was terrified they would get off at her stop. …
Wednesday 29th November, 2023 Like yesterday this survivor of sibling abuse has asked to remain anonymous: “When I was a child I used to tell lots of silly, pointless lies and at the time I was never sure why I did it. Now I realise It was because I had to lie everyday, to hide …