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26th November 2022For the good guys.We see you.We see you roll your eyes when your mate tells that sexist joke.We see your disapproval at catcalls, we notice that you respect us.That you treat us as equals, ask our opinions.We see you doing your fair share round the house, caring for your own children and not …
25th November 2022. I hate violence against women.I know that most violence against women is perpetrated by men.I also know that it’s a myth that women perpetrate violence against men just as much, and I get irritated when men say that to me.I’m outspoken, I’m blunt and I’m to the point. Worldwide a woman is …
Thursday 24th November 2022Abusive attitudes and beliefs aren’t built overnight, they’re not the result of one faulty doctrine or one bad preacher. It’s more complicated than that. Our ideas may seem good in principle but when applied to an abusive situation can be harmful. It can be just a small part of a teaching that’s …
15th July 2018. God became most real to me when I wasn’t really sure I believed in him anymore. I’d felt this niggling over the years, every so often I’d be in church, or in my bible, or otherwise engaged in listening to God and I’d get the feeling I was supposed to end my …
21st November 2022 In an upper room a bunch of men cowered. These weren’t namby pamby men, they were a group of some of the toughest guys of their time, labourers, fishermen, insurrectionists, and reformed criminals. They weren’t averse to conflict and they’d lived the last three years on the road. Yet they hid, fearful. …
Thursday 17th November 2022 I almost didn’t write this post. When we’re talking about theology that creates abusive attitudes complimentarianism- the notion that God gives men and women different roles, seems so obvious it’s hardly worth discussing. I’m also convinced that, men in particular who believe that women should have a different role to them …
5th November 2017 The word remarkable keeps coming to me, it has done the last few months. The last few years, after the turmoil and drama of living in and then leaving an abusive marriage I’ve celebrated my normal, peaceful, unremarkable life. I deliberately chose unremarkable. And I’m not saying I was wrong to do …
Thursday 10th November 2022 I first met my boyfriend when I was a self-righteous, judgmental 19 year old, he went out with my housemate, not me. 20 years later we met again, and now, almost five years later we’re very happy together. I don’t believe our knowledge and understanding of God is limited to the …
20th July 2017 I’m not a phobia kind of person but I do have one thing that scares me. Pain. I mean physical pain. When I tell people they don’t understand, they tell me “that’s normal, nobody likes pain” but for me it’s a real phobia; dentists (but not check ups because they don’t hurt) …
Thursday 3rd November 2022 In my last post in this series I talked about the Christian image of a violent God, and how that provides justification for male violence.Not content with portraying God as violent, some of our theology also portrays God as coercive.If the church is the bride of Christ, then Christ is a …